When we make a decision we subconsciously think about the pros and the cons. We wonder what the outcome or consequence of that particular decision will be, and if it is worth it after all is said and done.
Why can’t we just forget about the consequences and live vicariously through the pros of every decision? Why can we not accept that the cons that follow a decision are based on what we believe to be a con? What exactly is it that makes us so worried about the outcome of those decisions?
We have been constructed to worry, and most importantly, to worry about what other people may think. When we think about our decisions before we make them, we do not only think about them on behalf of ourselves, but on behalf of our friendly ‘click’ as well.
We are all targets for criticism, and when criticism comes into play we automatically do everything we can to avoid it. We do not want people commenting on our lifestyles or life decisions because somewhere inside of us, we want acceptance, and never, do we want to be judged.
We all make mistakes, and at the time we don’t know it - but that one mistake is worth making so that you can learn from it. It is not up to anyone else to make your decisions, so make them and don’t worry about the consequences.
You will only experience a mistake once - Twice if you liked it.
7.25.2010
7.11.2010
Just Be.
Why do we over think? Why do we worry, wonder, question, assume and accuse?
We always want to know more, and we always wish we had some power to help us understand what we simply cannot. It's hard to think one thing and know another, or to hear one thing and see another. However, why do we not just take things for what they are rather than what they could be or what they have been?
It's unfortunate but we as humans always over think what we're simply not supposed to understand. While were busy over thinking and making assumptions or criticizing, we are not allowing the positive and exciting things to affect us the way that they should.
We need to slow down and take it all in. We need to stop wondering and just start living.
We always want to know more, and we always wish we had some power to help us understand what we simply cannot. It's hard to think one thing and know another, or to hear one thing and see another. However, why do we not just take things for what they are rather than what they could be or what they have been?
It's unfortunate but we as humans always over think what we're simply not supposed to understand. While were busy over thinking and making assumptions or criticizing, we are not allowing the positive and exciting things to affect us the way that they should.
We need to slow down and take it all in. We need to stop wondering and just start living.
7.04.2010
Your true colours.
Being a friend is about understanding and acceptance. But why is it so hard for people to understand and to accept?
I've had the opportunity to see the true colour's of a couple of people in my life who I thought were the dearest of all. These people are the ones I'd go to if I needed help or advice, someone to talk to. However, I no longer feel as though I can confide in them the same way that I used to. Friends are supposed to be there for you and support you in your decisions, but they're also supposed to help you along the way.
We all need guidance, maybe not in everyday life, but in some aspects we want someone there to help us. Without the comfort of a best friend or a close friend who do you turn to? Some things you cannot tell your mother, male best friend or partner. True woman to woman friendship is valued so much to all of us, but often times when something doesn't go a certain way or someone realizes they don't have much control over the friendship; all hell breaks loose. Those people don't understand that it is a friendship and it is not meant to be controlled.
I am not partial to competition, I don't have to be a winner and I never want to make someone feel lower or less important than myself. Unfortunately, not everyone feels the way that I do and thats where problems start to arise. Power tripping females who need to be right, better, faster and stronger than the rest. You can't build a secure foundation on something like an ego, in the end that foundation will fail, along with the friendship you've built on it.
I've had the opportunity to see the true colour's of a couple of people in my life who I thought were the dearest of all. These people are the ones I'd go to if I needed help or advice, someone to talk to. However, I no longer feel as though I can confide in them the same way that I used to. Friends are supposed to be there for you and support you in your decisions, but they're also supposed to help you along the way.
We all need guidance, maybe not in everyday life, but in some aspects we want someone there to help us. Without the comfort of a best friend or a close friend who do you turn to? Some things you cannot tell your mother, male best friend or partner. True woman to woman friendship is valued so much to all of us, but often times when something doesn't go a certain way or someone realizes they don't have much control over the friendship; all hell breaks loose. Those people don't understand that it is a friendship and it is not meant to be controlled.
I am not partial to competition, I don't have to be a winner and I never want to make someone feel lower or less important than myself. Unfortunately, not everyone feels the way that I do and thats where problems start to arise. Power tripping females who need to be right, better, faster and stronger than the rest. You can't build a secure foundation on something like an ego, in the end that foundation will fail, along with the friendship you've built on it.
6.24.2010
We're Human.
"Humans are tragic creatures, having the ability to think and realize
but never to use it in time to understand the true meaning of it all.
To always run after the wrong things, to always regret when it is too late.
life was never about the material, never about what you posses
physically, its about experiencing every moment to the fullest, thinking
about the now, about what you feel and not about whats to come.
We tend to think that the future will fail if we over look it and focus on the present, but sadly when we understand that it is the present that actually leads to the future, it seems to be too late and that is why we are so tragic.
In our nature, sometimes it seems that we only come to
this world to regret what we didn't or did do in our past. When you
read this don't take it lightly, think about your life right now and
don't give up on those emotions, on those feelings and moments that make you who you are.
Fight the tragic nature of humanity and try not to regret"
but never to use it in time to understand the true meaning of it all.
To always run after the wrong things, to always regret when it is too late.
life was never about the material, never about what you posses
physically, its about experiencing every moment to the fullest, thinking
about the now, about what you feel and not about whats to come.
We tend to think that the future will fail if we over look it and focus on the present, but sadly when we understand that it is the present that actually leads to the future, it seems to be too late and that is why we are so tragic.
In our nature, sometimes it seems that we only come to
this world to regret what we didn't or did do in our past. When you
read this don't take it lightly, think about your life right now and
don't give up on those emotions, on those feelings and moments that make you who you are.
Fight the tragic nature of humanity and try not to regret"
6.07.2010
Who is who.
I've spent a lot of time thinking about the things that bother me about a person. I've taken the time to understand what it is that I don't want to see in a person and the qualities that cloud my vision and turn me in a different direction. However, I don't think I've really taken the time to sit down and explain to myself what I do value in someone; what I really enjoy seeing in someone.
Although I am not entirely to blame for some mishaps in my life, I do hold partial responsibility. I haven't been clear with myself, and I haven't been honest to myself when it comes to the things that are the most important. I always take the person who hurt me the most and relate them to the person I am presently with. A downside to comparing those two people is that I am also comparing them to the person or people who have made me feel the happiest. It is not a competition and I know that everyone is different. That being said, I still sometimes have a hard time accepting and understanding others different outlooks and unconventional actions.
I am not at all embarrassed to admit that I don't always see the best in people. I know that sometimes I over judge and make assumptions, and I don't want to be that person. I want to be someone that accepts everyone for who they are, what they value and whatever little interesting trait they hold that i'd usually be unsure of.
Although I am not entirely to blame for some mishaps in my life, I do hold partial responsibility. I haven't been clear with myself, and I haven't been honest to myself when it comes to the things that are the most important. I always take the person who hurt me the most and relate them to the person I am presently with. A downside to comparing those two people is that I am also comparing them to the person or people who have made me feel the happiest. It is not a competition and I know that everyone is different. That being said, I still sometimes have a hard time accepting and understanding others different outlooks and unconventional actions.
I am not at all embarrassed to admit that I don't always see the best in people. I know that sometimes I over judge and make assumptions, and I don't want to be that person. I want to be someone that accepts everyone for who they are, what they value and whatever little interesting trait they hold that i'd usually be unsure of.
6.03.2010
The Most Important.
In my opinion, one of the most important parts of understanding who you are, is understanding who you were and coming to terms with the things that you have done. I've had numerous days where I sit and wonder how I've been in the situations I've been in, and how those situations have gotten me to where I am today. I wonder how at one point I was at an ultimate high, and at another point not long before that I was at my all time low. It is fair to assume that I have chosen my own destiny, and I possibly contributed to my own emotional demise. However, if I had chosen that destiny myself, then what I choose next is going to blow my own mind.
It is important that we all figure out who we are while we still have the time. In time, it will make our lives much more memorable and rewarding.
I don't know who I am just yet, but I am doing everything that I can to figure it out.
It is important that we all figure out who we are while we still have the time. In time, it will make our lives much more memorable and rewarding.
I don't know who I am just yet, but I am doing everything that I can to figure it out.
5.19.2010
The way we feel Inside.
If you have experienced the feeling of never being able to live without someone, when they are gone; how do you move on without them?
Thinking that you could never take one breath without someone who you've lost is probably one of the toughest things to face. How do you admit that you long for that person every single day? How do you wake up every morning knowing that they are no longer in your life? How do you come to terms with the fact that when you're wondering they they're doing, in that same moment, they have no desire to know what you're doing?
Love is a tough emotion. We long for it, and then we get it and ironically we let it go, only to long for it yet again. Sometimes it is out of our hands, we cannot control what another person feels. But sometimes is has everything to do with us, and that's when we have to stop and wonder if we have done everything that we possibly could to keep the relationship strong. Love is only one emotion that a relationship needs, there are many other very necessary emotions which can hold a relationship together. You evolve into a couple before you really are a couple, and you feel beautiful emotions before Love. Those emotions should never be lost, because once they are lost, Love no longer plays a big enough role.
You have to Love the person that you are anticipating spending your life with. But you also have to lust them, inspire them, need them, long for them, adore them, guide them and be loyal to them. Love, without anything else, is just Love. And alone, it does not hold the strength of all of the other emotions combined.
Whether in love, out of love, looking for love or falling in love; Do it right, and if what you're feeling is true, never let them or that feeling go.
Thinking that you could never take one breath without someone who you've lost is probably one of the toughest things to face. How do you admit that you long for that person every single day? How do you wake up every morning knowing that they are no longer in your life? How do you come to terms with the fact that when you're wondering they they're doing, in that same moment, they have no desire to know what you're doing?
Love is a tough emotion. We long for it, and then we get it and ironically we let it go, only to long for it yet again. Sometimes it is out of our hands, we cannot control what another person feels. But sometimes is has everything to do with us, and that's when we have to stop and wonder if we have done everything that we possibly could to keep the relationship strong. Love is only one emotion that a relationship needs, there are many other very necessary emotions which can hold a relationship together. You evolve into a couple before you really are a couple, and you feel beautiful emotions before Love. Those emotions should never be lost, because once they are lost, Love no longer plays a big enough role.
You have to Love the person that you are anticipating spending your life with. But you also have to lust them, inspire them, need them, long for them, adore them, guide them and be loyal to them. Love, without anything else, is just Love. And alone, it does not hold the strength of all of the other emotions combined.
Whether in love, out of love, looking for love or falling in love; Do it right, and if what you're feeling is true, never let them or that feeling go.
5.13.2010
A new you
What does it take for you to see yourself as others see you? How do you achieve internal, and external happiness?
Happiness is all determined by our outlooks on life. We as humans always have and always will determine our own happiness. It is not up to others to give us the feeling of complete absolution of ones faults and overall contentment. It is only us who can understand the depth of our own happiness.
To rely on someone or something else to give us the happiness we yearn for, is not the gateway to personal euphoria.
Only those who can achieve their our OWN happiness, will in turn be genuinely happy.
Happiness is all determined by our outlooks on life. We as humans always have and always will determine our own happiness. It is not up to others to give us the feeling of complete absolution of ones faults and overall contentment. It is only us who can understand the depth of our own happiness.
To rely on someone or something else to give us the happiness we yearn for, is not the gateway to personal euphoria.
Only those who can achieve their our OWN happiness, will in turn be genuinely happy.
5.09.2010
What is a Friend?
My best friend inspired me to write about friendships.
A friend is someone who you can confide in. Someone you can talk to and get advice from. A friend is a true companion, someone who helps you along the way. A friend is someone who you can rely on, in even the worst of situations. Someone who puts your happiness before theirs, and hopes for the best for you at all times, no matter what. A friend is a soul mate, without them we would be lost.
Friendship stands for companionship, and companionship is all that anyone really wants. We want to be someone that others care for, and we want to care for others just the same. We are human, and we all feel the same. We all know what love and hurt feels like, and we know what comfort and respect feels like. It feels good, and it feels bad, and our friends can always relate. They are there to help, and we are there to help them in return.
"Maybe our girlfriends are our soul mates, and guys are just people to have fun with"
Sex and the City.
A friend is someone who you can confide in. Someone you can talk to and get advice from. A friend is a true companion, someone who helps you along the way. A friend is someone who you can rely on, in even the worst of situations. Someone who puts your happiness before theirs, and hopes for the best for you at all times, no matter what. A friend is a soul mate, without them we would be lost.
Friendship stands for companionship, and companionship is all that anyone really wants. We want to be someone that others care for, and we want to care for others just the same. We are human, and we all feel the same. We all know what love and hurt feels like, and we know what comfort and respect feels like. It feels good, and it feels bad, and our friends can always relate. They are there to help, and we are there to help them in return.
"Maybe our girlfriends are our soul mates, and guys are just people to have fun with"
Sex and the City.
5.08.2010
Shoes
A pair of shoes to a woman, Is the equivalence of sex for a man.
We do not know when it is appropriate to indulge in a pair of shoes, we don't have any sense of direction when we're first time buyers, we lose our breath and start sweating when we walk into a shoe store. We are absolutely infatuated with shoes, the accessory, what they stand for and how they make us look.
A pair of Guess heels on Amazon.com= $78.89 CAD (Doesn't ship to Canada)
Same pair of Guess heels on Shoes.com= $81.49 CAD
Same pair of Guess heels on Guess.com= $120 CAD (On Sale)
We do not know when it is appropriate to indulge in a pair of shoes, we don't have any sense of direction when we're first time buyers, we lose our breath and start sweating when we walk into a shoe store. We are absolutely infatuated with shoes, the accessory, what they stand for and how they make us look.
A pair of Guess heels on Amazon.com= $78.89 CAD (Doesn't ship to Canada)
Same pair of Guess heels on Shoes.com= $81.49 CAD
Same pair of Guess heels on Guess.com= $120 CAD (On Sale)
5.07.2010
Despair
How am I living life day by day knowing that I want someone else there with me? How do I wake up each morning wanting more and feeling incomplete?
I am 21 years old, I have experienced a lot of things, but of course not as many as I'd like to. I've experienced Love, Hatred, Despair and many, many other confusing and rewarding feelings. But what happens when all of those feelings are gone and you are only left with regret? What happens when Love and Hate have diminished, and all that is left is sadness? What am I to do when I wake up in the wee hours of the chilled morning and wish that someone I truly Loved was there beside me to keep me warm.
I am not ashamed to express my feelings, how I feel makes me who I am. I am sad, and I am lonely and I am extremely regretful of some of my past. I miss the way that I felt, I haven't felt that since and I don't know if I ever will. I don't know how to give myself to someone the way that I gave myself to him.
The saddest thing is that he doesn't acknowledge the fact that I am desperate for him. I just want him to see me, and understand me. To respond back to me and Love me. I know it's pathetic, I know it's low and it won't make him realize that there is someone out there who loves him, and loved him before any of this. But I still wish for it, so badly.
I want to be happy, and he is my happiness.
I am 21 years old, I have experienced a lot of things, but of course not as many as I'd like to. I've experienced Love, Hatred, Despair and many, many other confusing and rewarding feelings. But what happens when all of those feelings are gone and you are only left with regret? What happens when Love and Hate have diminished, and all that is left is sadness? What am I to do when I wake up in the wee hours of the chilled morning and wish that someone I truly Loved was there beside me to keep me warm.
I am not ashamed to express my feelings, how I feel makes me who I am. I am sad, and I am lonely and I am extremely regretful of some of my past. I miss the way that I felt, I haven't felt that since and I don't know if I ever will. I don't know how to give myself to someone the way that I gave myself to him.
The saddest thing is that he doesn't acknowledge the fact that I am desperate for him. I just want him to see me, and understand me. To respond back to me and Love me. I know it's pathetic, I know it's low and it won't make him realize that there is someone out there who loves him, and loved him before any of this. But I still wish for it, so badly.
I want to be happy, and he is my happiness.
4.26.2010
?
What makes us whole?
Is it another being?
An adventure?
An unexpected turn of events?
What makes us who we are and who we aspire to be?
Is it another being?
An adventure?
An unexpected turn of events?
What makes us who we are and who we aspire to be?
4.01.2010
What do you do.
I've been thinking all day about how to tell someone how much they mean to the world. How do you go about explaining the things that people love about a certain person? Is it possible that someone can never see themselves through a different set of eyes? Is it true that someone can never take a step back and observe what they're doing in that moment? Realize that what they're doing is making someone feel happy, loved and beautiful from all angles.
How does someone become so blindsided and jaded? Not ever understanding why one person feels adoration and completion towards them. How do you show that person how much they mean to you? How do you express the exact feeling inside of you?
We are so easily mislead by so many stereotypes in relationships. How is it that we have come to the conclusion that the best date is Dinner and a Movie? How have we gotten to the point that our most intimate, passionate state is when we're having sex? Why isn't the best date a walk under the stars on a warm night? And why are the most passionate and intimate moments not every minute of each day with someone that you Love?
The things that we do, and the way that we do them will determine the life of our relationships. If we decide that dinner and a movie is the ideal date because we think that we are happiest together in that moment, then no one can change that. If we think that having sex is the only way to feel that much passion and intimacy, then no one can change that. What we feel, what we know, and what we do are all very different things. We go about our daily lives together and we continue on this path, this journey, but we don't have a destination. We don't have a set range of feeling, we don't have a certain amount of time, we don't have only so much to give. We have an abundance of beautiful feelings and emotions to share, we have all the time in the world and we have everything in us to give.
There is no way around what you are feeling inside. How you choose to express those feelings will determine who you are as a person.
How does someone become so blindsided and jaded? Not ever understanding why one person feels adoration and completion towards them. How do you show that person how much they mean to you? How do you express the exact feeling inside of you?
We are so easily mislead by so many stereotypes in relationships. How is it that we have come to the conclusion that the best date is Dinner and a Movie? How have we gotten to the point that our most intimate, passionate state is when we're having sex? Why isn't the best date a walk under the stars on a warm night? And why are the most passionate and intimate moments not every minute of each day with someone that you Love?
The things that we do, and the way that we do them will determine the life of our relationships. If we decide that dinner and a movie is the ideal date because we think that we are happiest together in that moment, then no one can change that. If we think that having sex is the only way to feel that much passion and intimacy, then no one can change that. What we feel, what we know, and what we do are all very different things. We go about our daily lives together and we continue on this path, this journey, but we don't have a destination. We don't have a set range of feeling, we don't have a certain amount of time, we don't have only so much to give. We have an abundance of beautiful feelings and emotions to share, we have all the time in the world and we have everything in us to give.
There is no way around what you are feeling inside. How you choose to express those feelings will determine who you are as a person.
3.31.2010
Indecisive.
Some days I sit at home and loathe in self pity. Other days I step up to my faults and mistakes and ignore everything that they're supposed to stand for. I don't want to think about what might have been, what could have been; it is not, and never will be. I wish everyday I had that rejuvenating feeling of me finally understanding, coming to terms. Unfortunately I cannot promise myself that everlasting feeling of completion and acceptance. Some days are simply better than others.
I am happy to be me, happy that I've learned all of the things that life has chosen to teach me. I am happy that overall I have a very positive outlook on life and what it has to offer. I am happy, In general, but I often wonder 'Could I be happier?'. I'm sure I could be, and I'm sure one day I will be.
I need experience and real life decisions to help me become the person I aspire to be.
I am happy to be me, happy that I've learned all of the things that life has chosen to teach me. I am happy that overall I have a very positive outlook on life and what it has to offer. I am happy, In general, but I often wonder 'Could I be happier?'. I'm sure I could be, and I'm sure one day I will be.
I need experience and real life decisions to help me become the person I aspire to be.
3.30.2010
I am sitting here on my bed at 11:16am wondering why I wasn't meant to be somewhere else. Why was I meant to be sitting here wishing for something and someone who is never coming back? Is there a higher being who wants me to feel astray today, in hopes of a better me tomorrow? I wish my thoughts had a filter, only the thoughts that lead me to a peak of happiness and no delusions were the ones allowed to enter the filter.
If I could go back in time and fix what I damaged, I would. Unfortunately for me, there are more important things in his life than I ever was or ever could be.
The lack of communication and unfortunate disbelief has begun to make me wonder if I'll ever feel this way again.
Some things are left unnoticed, I am simply left.
If I could go back in time and fix what I damaged, I would. Unfortunately for me, there are more important things in his life than I ever was or ever could be.
The lack of communication and unfortunate disbelief has begun to make me wonder if I'll ever feel this way again.
Some things are left unnoticed, I am simply left.
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