Experience

When we make a decision we subconsciously think about the pros and the cons. We wonder what the outcome or consequence of that particular decision will be, and if it is worth it after all is said and done.

Why can’t we just forget about the consequences and live vicariously through the pros of every decision? Why can we not accept that the cons that follow a decision are based on what we believe to be a con? What exactly is it that makes us so worried about the outcome of those decisions?

We have been constructed to worry, and most importantly, to worry about what other people may think. When we think about our decisions before we make them, we do not only think about them on behalf of ourselves, but on behalf of our friendly ‘click’ as well.

We are all targets for criticism, and when criticism comes into play we automatically do everything we can to avoid it. We do not want people commenting on our lifestyles or life decisions because somewhere inside of us, we want acceptance, and never, do we want to be judged.

We all make mistakes, and at the time we don’t know it - but that one mistake is worth making so that you can learn from it. It is not up to anyone else to make your decisions, so make them and don’t worry about the consequences.

You will only experience a mistake once - Twice if you liked it.

Just Be.

Why do we over think? Why do we worry, wonder, question, assume and accuse?

We always want to know more, and we always wish we had some power to help us understand what we simply cannot. It's hard to think one thing and know another, or to hear one thing and see another. However, why do we not just take things for what they are rather than what they could be or what they have been?
It's unfortunate but we as humans always over think what we're simply not supposed to understand. While were busy over thinking and making assumptions or criticizing, we are not allowing the positive and exciting things to affect us the way that they should.

We need to slow down and take it all in. We need to stop wondering and just start living.

Your true colours.

Being a friend is about understanding and acceptance. But why is it so hard for people to understand and to accept?

I've had the opportunity to see the true colour's of a couple of people in my life who I thought were the dearest of all. These people are the ones I'd go to if I needed help or advice, someone to talk to. However, I no longer feel as though I can confide in them the same way that I used to. Friends are supposed to be there for you and support you in your decisions, but they're also supposed to help you along the way.

We all need guidance, maybe not in everyday life, but in some aspects we want someone there to help us. Without the comfort of a best friend or a close friend who do you turn to? Some things you cannot tell your mother, male best friend or partner. True woman to woman friendship is valued so much to all of us, but often times when something doesn't go a certain way or someone realizes they don't have much control over the friendship; all hell breaks loose. Those people don't understand that it is a friendship and it is not meant to be controlled.

I am not partial to competition, I don't have to be a winner and I never want to make someone feel lower or less important than myself. Unfortunately, not everyone feels the way that I do and thats where problems start to arise. Power tripping females who need to be right, better, faster and stronger than the rest. You can't build a secure foundation on something like an ego, in the end that foundation will fail, along with the friendship you've built on it.